At Christian churches across the United States, it seems that there is a
disproportionate number of men and women. I’m no advocate of affirmative
action, but this long trend is disturbing. More recently, it struck me not as
some failure on the part of the church, but as stations and posts that have
been neglected, abandoned, or deserted.
Perhaps churches have a responsibility to serve men better than they have. But
that’s not the whole story. The rest of the story, to borrow an appropriate
phrase from Paul Harvey, is that Christian men have an equally great
responsibility to man their stations. Not only do they have divinely-assigned
tasks in the workforce, but also in the home and in the church. Those are the
places where God has put them and given them a special, vital role. In some
cases, men seem to be more interested in recreation than in any of these
things, and in other cases, Christian men have forgotten one or more of these
areas of responsibility.
Much has been said and written to criticize the biblically-defined roles of men
and women under God’s moral law and the ordering of His Church. Much of this
comes from the feminist tradition, especially since the sexual revolution. It
seems less concerned about what’s good for men and women, and more concerned
about erasing any notion that they are distinct from one another. Perhaps
Christian men on the whole have bought into this. Whether or not they have, the
fact remains that God has given them a distinct place in the Church, and in
general they are going AWOL. Instead, churches are filled with women and
children, with very few men. It’s little wonder that the children — especially
boys — also drift away from the Church as they get older, since the men who
ought to be guiding them are generally not there. It’s no wonder that some
women would like to take the place given to men, when that place is mostly
empty.
Take a lesson from Tolkien. In The Lord of the Rings, the Shire enjoyed
centuries of peace and safety in an otherwise dangerous and hostile world
because the Dunedain, the Rangers of the north, worked tirelessly and
selflessly to protect its borders, while the men of Gondor stood bravely at
their watch against the evil power growing in the east. If those men had not
been so faithful and doughty, the Shire and much else that is good and fair
would have perished long before the story began.
Or take a lesson from history. Time and time again, men both young and old
answered the call from their comfortable homes to defend their loved ones
against forces often greater in strength, and in circumstances both dark and
grim. It was not a sense of ease or self-preservation that drew them, but love
for their wives, their children, their neighbors, their homeland, and their way
of life. Many even fought to preserve a place for their faith and the freedom
to live by it all week long, raising their children and grandchildren to trust
the Word of God. Some failed despite valiant effort, but knowing that the
effort alone was worth the risk. Others succeeded, and many of us have enjoyed
the benefits of their great efforts. Make no mistake: we are engaged in such a
war. Though it may at times be less bloody, the stakes are higher and more
lasting.
Or take a lesson from Holy Scripture. Ephesians 6:4: “And you, fathers, do not
provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and
admonition of the Lord.” And Luke 12:35-36: “Let your waist be girded and your
lamps burning; and you yourselves be like men who wait for their master, when
he will return from the wedding, that when he comes and knocks they may open to
him immediately.” In too many churches and Christian homes, the lamps are dim.
If they burn still, then all too often it is to the credit of faithful
women who have taken up the fight not only for themselves, but in place of
their missing husbands and fathers.
We men should pray that God would forgive our disregard for things that are
more important than our own comfort and recreation, and help us to once again
assume our places as guards and sentinels on the walls of Zion. Will you be a man or a child? We
need to lead our families to church weekly, and especially in the seasons when
the Church celebrates the person and work of Christ. We need to lead our
churches in keeping their priorities straight and advancing the mission with
which the Church has been entrusted. None should be more eager for prayer and
repentance, or better examples of the same. None should be better students of
God’s Word, or more motivated teachers in word and deed.
May God forgive our faint hearts and supply what we lack, that His church, our families, and houses may
be blessed. Christ is our example, and His mercy is our reason.